Preparing the kids for real life

I was discussing with a friend about people leeching from certain government initatives such as financial assistance to single mothers, jobless people, and others. I wont get in details with everything but eventually we ended up speaking about the education system. we concluded that there was something wrong somewhere that made it so kids dont really know what they want to do when they get out of high school and for many they just spend couple years doing generic studies or social studies while trying to decide on something. In fact, thats exactly my case. I think theres many things that come into play in this situation, geography, economy, the way parents raise their kids and the actual education system. lets take a look deeper into some of these facets and try to find an explanation.

Depending on the place you were born and the installations that are within reasonable range you will have different developpement. for example someone that was born way out in the country in a small town that has a high school and nothing after will have different career perspective in minds than the person living in a large city with several different universities and a panoply of possibilities. Why? well its difficult to see the possibilities that youre just not aware of. its also hard to want to do something very different than what has been around you all your life. so a person that lives way out in the country might be tempted to lean toward whats at his/her disposition. for example some manual job thats available in his/her area. or perhaps theyll be tempted to move not too far and go to the next bigger town that has a small college that way they can see whats there and find something or more radically they could want to move to the bigger city and and choose from a large choice. But i said more radically for a reason, cause thats a big move to leave your family and go live somewhere else in a completely new environment. to sum it up, geography modifies the choices your consider, from a narrow selection to a wider selection.

The financial status of a family also influence what their children will want or can do. a kid from a family that has a tight budget might want to start working as soon as possible to help out their family and contribute. and that may influence what they want to do as far as a job later on. they might not want to study for many years and start their career at a younger age, or they might be motivated to work really hard and have success at school and try and aim for a good income job or whatever. im thinking the kids from low income family realize the importance of work earlier since it directly affects their daily comfort and we can almost say, it strenghten their chance of survival. But wasnt it that way for most families that hard to work really hard togheter to survive in the 18th 19th and early 20th century. the kids would start to work to help their parents really only on and didnt valorize school. while perhaps one of the kid would get financed to study. that one lucky kid that was able to study sure as hell realized the sacrifices his family made to provide him/her with education.

Things changed now, a kid is not something that will be benefit the family by working and bringing more money to the table, nowadays a kid means many things to pay to raise it. and in middle class families, the parents are able to pay. they can pay for their kids to have a good food regimen, all the school furnitures they need and everything their children might need to remain happy and healthy. so the kids gladly take what they receive. but they hate going to school cause its not cool and its boring unlike playing xbox live. so they dont work hard at school and only go cause they are forced too. others perform at school cause they dont want their parents to get mad at them. others see the importance of building their future and work hard for themselves, they might even like it but wont admit it cause its not cool to like school. so for many, they are forced to go to school and are aware they will have to work when they get out of it. as they grow they start to dislike school less and realize its kinda important, and they are driven to start to think about a career, what kind of job they want to do later. so they try to figure out what they like and what they dont in career education classes and by doing bunch of ability quizzes. Yes they do start to think about jobs early on. but do they really conceive it? the idea to work in a certain domain for the vast majority of their lifes, to actually start their own lives where theirs parents are not there to pay. but the more accurate question, do they actually want to grow older and start to work.

because thats the thing, i think is problematic. while teenagers and future worker know they need to work, cause theyve been told so and they live in a world where everybody is working at one point. They've been so used to having all their needs satisfied by their parents. the same parents that want their kids to succeed and will do whats in their power to help. The best way to learn is to be forced to work at some point like it was the case for me. i didnt really need money i had what i wanted, but my parents really wanted me to start working so i did. and its then that i realized that everything around me was built through hard work. that while i had an easy time, some people didnt, and they had it that way so that i could get the best chances at succeeding. That was for me, and i dont think i worded the reflexion i made when i started to work accurately enough to explain how i opened my eyes, but its what i got so far. but not everyone realizes the importance of working and stoppign to play like i did or at the same time i did nor do i claim to be perfect in that sense either. but i do realize that life is not about having fun all the time and i want to find what i want to do for a career and i have the tools to do so.

Because yes, the education system, in my opinion, offers pretty good tools for young students to find a career they wish to pursue. high schools have counselors and career education courses. all you need is that motivation to find something. otherwise its easy to simply be dizzied by the amount of choices and possibilities and not be able to choose. at the same time its also easy to not just wanna quickly choose the first good possibility. you wanna make sure you dont do a mistake since youll be doing it all your life technically so its pretty hard to pick a domain to study in. Also people tend to go toward the funner stuff like arts, psychology, teaching, journalism, etc... (you get the idea).

So now I'm stuck with no real solutions to suggest and no unique cause to point at. I dont wanna end up saying that teenagers today are lazy and unable to do anything. they just live in a life where they dont need to do anything until a certain age where they are pushed to start working (while the possibility of not working would technically still be viable cause they wouldnt be in danger of dieing and would find food on the table everyday). I dont simply wanna say that teenagers are victims of the system where they simply cannot realize that they wont be able to have it easy all their lives. I dont want to say the education system isnt adapted either since it has all the tools necessary to make a career choice. And i dont want to say that parents dont know how to raise their kids cause they help them succeed so much. Its probably a little bit of everything, everyone has to do his/her part to solve this problem of having a bunch of young students that dont know what they want to do.